Every Man should be a Dom
A good one of course.
I write about how women feel men- the subtle dynamics, the silent impact, the moments that shape safety, desire and connection. My work guides men into deeper presence, integrity and grounded masculine leadership.
I am still due to meet a woman, who doesn´t like to be dominated in bed to some degree. Not talking about the ones who never experienced it- not interested in theory- or the ones who only experienced the TEMU version of dominance.
Those who had the good thing want it again. Not every woman likes the same practices and even intensity, but all love the energy underneath. They tell you their stories with sparkly eyes.
I´m an absolute music geek and love to give you my actual favorites here:
The problem with our current culture (this word sounds much more elite than I would describe what we have currently) is that we stop with the illusion- I can just pretend something here and people will buy it. But our bodies cannot be fooled- they reveal the truth. Many men pretend dominance, unaware that actual dominance will be reflected in the way you show up everywhere, your ability to contain, your steadiness, clarity and groundedness. If you don´t have this, no amount of spanking will make you a good dominant.
The reason why women love good dominance in men is because it requires masculine qualities, it requires strength, safety, intensity and so it activates our nervous system in an intriguing way. It´s polarity, the ancient calibration in us, at play, that let´s us go deeper and wider.
The only problem when I write about this here is, that men need to understand that in order to be a good dominant, there is no way you can skip working on yourself. Good dominance is good leadership with a tone to it, and this is nothing you are handed- it´s something you work for.
You face yourself, you expand your capacity to contain, you overcome your fears- especially the deepseated, that you are not aware of- and learn to meet life fully, you learn to meet her fully with all you got.
Whoever says, that dominance consists of certain moves and nothing more, sells you something you shouldn´t pay for. Above all, it´s about energy. If you are not embodying the energy of dominance or if you do not have self awareness and awareness of where she´s at, it will be flat, inauthentic, off, weird.
The deeper you go with yourself, the more you challenge yourself, the deeper the sexual experience will be with her too. The more quick fixes and bypassing you practice, the flatter it will be with her too.
Dominance can be a fine art, that seperates the wheat from the chaff.
Don´t be TEMU, be PRADA.
More about dominance here:
This conversation with Mr.Justin from The Dominance Academy is an interesting listen, where we talk a lot about what it takes to be a good dominant. Since he is a man who invested the work already, it might be especially good to hear what he has to say.
If you want to start embodying the traits that make you a good dominant too, start working with me by booking a discovery call here.
Funny, but right as you were saying “Whoever says, that dominance consists of certain moves and nothing more, sells you something you shouldn´t pay for.” I was already filling in the gaps with “it´s about energy.” What a good distinction between just copying certain movements and the right type of energy required for this.🔥
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