I find solitude very appealing—far preferable to lies and hypocrisy. Do not forget that you are never truly alone, for God is always with you. Solitude allows you to sense God's presence and serves as an excellent reminder to turn your thoughts toward Him; indeed, it is a wonderful choice for anyone.
This is good. I think it’s “both and.” I think men’s part of the equation is deprogramming the insistence that any display of emotion or delight in other men (like being happy to see close friends) signals a sexual preference.
At the same time, third spaces for males also play a role. Many male-only spaces have been systematically removed as “misogynistic” yet female third spaces are hailed as heroic, protective, and necessary for girl-power flourishing.
And I like your tendency here to lean away from victimhood. It’s gets us nowhere. When we view ourselves as victims, it requires someone else to get us out of such victimization.
Yes, right, I think "deprogramming" is the exact word here- for everyone, women too. It´s part of an evolutionary step, I feel. It takes courage, as so many things do at this time, but it´s the only way, in my eyes.
Do you mean, male spaces have been actually removed or "just" demonized?
Well, that’s what I feel is the thing we cannot be irritated by- especially as things get more grotesque each day. We need to bring exactly what we feel is missing.
I guess you would have to say: try to get the attention and interest of a woman if you are a cultural, physical, or economic loser. You won't. You will be invisible. There will be no woman to be vulnerable to. No exquisite process of "presence without armour." See, a man gets no "credit" for being the kind of man a woman wants attention from. He is all on his own. There are armies of men that Franziska (to use one example) would not even give the time of day to. Masculinity, as many people have pointed out, is not "naturally occurring" in the way of femininity. It must be earned, developed, honed, and defended. It comes, originally, from separation. Loneliness is a feature, not a bug. At least, "aloneness" is. You did not recognize brotherhood here. For men, it is the mean between presence to a woman (which cannot be sustained at all times) and performance of roles (ditto). If your process, or society at large, does not produce brotherhood, you have not helped men in the way they need it. Or so I would respectfully suggest.
I actually did touch on brotherhood, I just named it differently. I agree, it´s very important. I do not agree on three parts: that vulnerability is reserved for the ones who won already(they perform too or even more) and that men do not have inherent worth. That´s not true. Men and women are inherently worthy- masculinity and femininity need to be cultivated, both. Loneliness is not inherent to masculinity, aloneness might be.
I find solitude very appealing—far preferable to lies and hypocrisy. Do not forget that you are never truly alone, for God is always with you. Solitude allows you to sense God's presence and serves as an excellent reminder to turn your thoughts toward Him; indeed, it is a wonderful choice for anyone.
This is good. I think it’s “both and.” I think men’s part of the equation is deprogramming the insistence that any display of emotion or delight in other men (like being happy to see close friends) signals a sexual preference.
At the same time, third spaces for males also play a role. Many male-only spaces have been systematically removed as “misogynistic” yet female third spaces are hailed as heroic, protective, and necessary for girl-power flourishing.
And I like your tendency here to lean away from victimhood. It’s gets us nowhere. When we view ourselves as victims, it requires someone else to get us out of such victimization.
Yes, right, I think "deprogramming" is the exact word here- for everyone, women too. It´s part of an evolutionary step, I feel. It takes courage, as so many things do at this time, but it´s the only way, in my eyes.
Do you mean, male spaces have been actually removed or "just" demonized?
One example in America is Boy Scouts are no longer. It’s just scouts, so both boys and girls can join. But Girl Scouts still remains.
Male only gyms used to exist. No longer. But female only gyms exist everywhere.
Male clubs used to exist, but in the 1960s there were bad apples who ruined it for everyone else by abusing their power over weaker humans.
We never reinstated such clubs for fear of returning to such abuse. But the 2026 man is nothing like the 1960 man.
The current zeitgeist of male friendship is that of suspicion rather than delight and curiosity.
Thank you for enlightening me on that one. Is it prohibited to found male only gyms for example or?
I really don’t know. It would be met with social upheaval. Not sure of legality.
Well, that’s what I feel is the thing we cannot be irritated by- especially as things get more grotesque each day. We need to bring exactly what we feel is missing.
With the silent Epidemic of all the BPDemons out there, Peace is a much better choice.
I guess you would have to say: try to get the attention and interest of a woman if you are a cultural, physical, or economic loser. You won't. You will be invisible. There will be no woman to be vulnerable to. No exquisite process of "presence without armour." See, a man gets no "credit" for being the kind of man a woman wants attention from. He is all on his own. There are armies of men that Franziska (to use one example) would not even give the time of day to. Masculinity, as many people have pointed out, is not "naturally occurring" in the way of femininity. It must be earned, developed, honed, and defended. It comes, originally, from separation. Loneliness is a feature, not a bug. At least, "aloneness" is. You did not recognize brotherhood here. For men, it is the mean between presence to a woman (which cannot be sustained at all times) and performance of roles (ditto). If your process, or society at large, does not produce brotherhood, you have not helped men in the way they need it. Or so I would respectfully suggest.
I actually did touch on brotherhood, I just named it differently. I agree, it´s very important. I do not agree on three parts: that vulnerability is reserved for the ones who won already(they perform too or even more) and that men do not have inherent worth. That´s not true. Men and women are inherently worthy- masculinity and femininity need to be cultivated, both. Loneliness is not inherent to masculinity, aloneness might be.
Do you produce brotherhood?
Certainly do. And it does not have to pass female muster. That’s what’s so liberating about it.