A Man in Integrity
You wanna be hot? Be this.
I don´t know about you but I miss sexappeal. I mean, the real sexappeal. Hot men. Hot women. “Hot” seems to be the same for men and women and I do not agree. Somehow this generalized hotness is not hot on either side. Who would have thought.. Generalized anything doesn´t serve anyone. We need masculinity in men and femininity in women. Everything else fails to be sexy. Period.
If you read some of my stuff, you know I am very direct and concrete in what I think and see. With men.. I love men. I grew up in a country(Germany), where men are very softened for the main part and not so able to handle the feminine nature- it´s funny bc the feminine nature is about softness but men, who are too soft themselves are often not able to handle it. Because they are too soft. Anyways. It´s the conditioning. I still see the willingness to do good and be constructive. That´s why I love men in general.
What is integrity?
Integrity has several meanings:
to have principles, that serve as guidelines in your life
to do exactly what you said you would
Female readers are probably already wet.
A man, who knows, what he wants and what he doesn´t, a man, who goes for what he wants and feels is right, no matter the resistance, is better than porn, better than any vibrator. He is smoking hot.
To act in integrity is part of the traits, that make a woman feel safe. He does what he said he would and he has an inner compass- it´s magnetic. He will even resist her, if his principles say so. He will leave her temporarily to do the thing he knows is necessary. As much as she doesn´t want him to go, she will respect him for staying true to himself and his values.
If he says one thing but doesn´t follow through, he will have a difficult stand with women. It´s the small things, that weaken a relationship and her sense of safety with him. You said, you bring out the trash and didn´t do it? You said, you would call her and didn´t do it? She will resent you for it and the more often that happens, the more closed her whole being will be towards you- garantueed.
Integrity today
Humans all around the world feel insignificant, what leads to a feeling of “it doesn´t matter what I do”. It´s the quick dopamine, it´s the lazy solutions, that move in then. Men try to conform to womens wishes, women hold the power but actually wish for a man, who is on eye level, would resist her for once and would not rely on her for guidance.
It´s no mission, no clear line, no inner compass because why when everything is easy to have. But the cheap outer things and the intrinsic motivations are not even close to each other- one leads to non resilience, incontentment, addiction, desperation, insecurity, lostness, non attractiveness and the other to uprightness, confidence, purpose, clarity and incredible sexappeal.
Final rant
This pandemic of outside guided humans and- for our matter here- men is much more problematic than any virus or bacteria. The conviction of the masses, that they hold no power and thus can just act like small children, is the biggest problem, that we have to face. As long as we don´t realize, that we hold all the keys, we will be influenced by outside factors.
Dear men, dare to resist women, dare to have your own mission, dare to use your power to create your own precious life and the relationship of your dreams. If you go with the flow, she won´t feel safe with you, she won´t respect you and there´s no way she will find you hot. She can still love you though- as a brother.
It all rings loud and clear as a cathedral bell tower!!
I've known many men who were their girlfriends and wives best "girlfriend" and ended up confused as to why their relationships turned contentious, mentally and emotionally combative and then she went out and found another guy who was either the opposite of the "girlfriend at home" or was new enough that the sex over shadowed the soft parts, yet to be revealed.
There is a reason men and women gravitate and want to be with and around a strong leader. We often call these "alphas". However, no matter what we call them they all poses the things you described - courage to follow their own paths, integrity of intentions, morals and deeds and a strength of masculinity overall, that signals and provides safety.
Hollywood and other shit entertainment and media has done it's work well to feminize generations of men, to the point that they now are proud to don dresses and heels, to show how open and enlightened they are - which should make all women vomit and despise them - and they will given time, because as you rightly say, at the bottom of it all women don't want a sister or additional galpal, they want a man - who knows he's a man and walks in that reality with strength.